Isaiah Washington on Grey’s Anatomy.Photo: Karen Neal/Disney General Entertainment Content via Getty

The cast and crew ofGrey’s Anatomyare offering more details on the events that led toIsaiah Washington’s exit from the show.
Washington, who played Dr. Preston Burke on the medical drama, was fired fromGrey’sback in 2007 afterusing a homophobic sluron set. He denied at the time that the slur was directed at anybody in particular, thoughmany felt the outburstwas aimed at costarT.R. Knight’s sexuality.
Lynette Rice’s new book,How to Save a Life: The Inside Story of Grey’s Anatomy, details how it was actually a fight between Washington, 57, and costarPatrick Dempseythat ended in theP-Valleyactor making the offensive comment.
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“And Isaiah, for whatever reason that day, just took that the wrong way and he went after Patrick,” adds Harry Werksman, another writer from the show who was there that day. “I guess he felt disrespected that he and the crew had been waiting. He went after Patrick, pushed him up against the wall, and said, ‘You can’t talk to me the way you talk to that little f—– T.R.’ "
Marty Carrillo says he was on set and heard the argument. “I heard, ‘You son of a bitch!’ And then the f-word,” Carrillo tells Rice, who is also an editor-at-large atEntertainment Weekly.
“Everyone knew T.R. was gay,” Carrillo says. “For some reason, Isaiah just lost it and pinned Patrick up against the wall. You could see Isaiah’s pupils go wide, like, ‘What did I do?’ It was quiet. Everyone had to leave the set.”
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Both Washington and Dempsey, whoexitedGrey’sin 2015, also recall the altercation in the tell-all book. “We learned that we [had] to watch what we say,” Washington says. “We [had] to make sure we [were] more accountable.”
“I think the explosion really healed the show,” Dempsey, 55, notes. “No one passed the buck, and everyone owned up to the situation and moved on.”
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However, the incident came up again at the Golden Globes press room in 2007. When Washington was asked about it, he said: “No, I did not call T.R. a f—–. Never happened, never happened.” Washingtonlater apologized for using the slurat the awards show press room.
At the time, fellowGrey’salumKatherine Heigl, who was close friends with Knight,criticized Washington’s statement. “I’m going to be really honest right now, he needs to just not speak in public. Period,” she toldAccess Hollywood. “I’m sorry, that did not need to be said, I’m not okay with it.”
The actress continues, “I was recently talking to T.R. about this and I said, ‘I hope I didn’t embarrass you and draw more attention to something that you just wanted to go away.’ And he said I could never have embarrassed him and that he was so grateful because no one had ever stood up for him that way before. So that is a proud moment for me. I don’t regret it. And I’m just grateful that my friend doesn’t regret it.”
Washington also says he thought the issue was behind him before learning of his eventual firing that year.
“I did everything that the producers and the network asked me to do,” he says. “I came back under great stress, and thought I was doing the job I was hired to do. I thought that was going to speak for my future atGrey’s, but apparently that wasn’t the same vision that the network and studio had for me.”
source: people.com